father lives in indiana , never married him, never had contact until child was nine when i took him to court, i have sole custody he has visitation. I moved out of state , only lived there 4 months prior to hearing, then came back to florida where i lived for 5 years because i lost my job there because of transportation issues.
You can't be charged with kidnapping as long as you continue to uphold your end of the visitation.
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He is having trouble getting to see his child, because the mother is very difficult to get along with and doesn't let him see the child on his weekends if she is upset about something.Is our only option to go to court?
This should answer all your questions:
AS A REMINDER TO ALL SINGLE MEN SHACKING UP WITH A WOMAN. UNLESS YOU LIVE IN ARIZONA OR CALIFORNIA, YOU HAVE
NO (English/Spanish/Italian);
N-O;
NEE (Dutch);
لا (Arabic);
He (Bulgarian);
いいえ (Japanese);
ASSUMED RIGHTS TO, OR SAY ABOUT, ANY CHILD BORN OUT OF WEDLOCK. ONLY THE COURTS CAN GRANT YOU ANY RIGHTS.
I REPEAT, SINGLE FATHERS IN 97% OF THE U.S. AND ITS TERRITORIES HAVE NO RIGHTS. YOU ARE FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHTS UNTIL YOU ARE GRANTED THEM. THE MOTHER HAS AUTOMATIC SOLE LEGAL CUSTODY OF THE CHILD.
SINGLE MEN MAKE THEMSELVES INTO A SLAVE CLASS THAT MUST ASK PERMISSION OF THE MASTER (THE MOTHER) OR HER LEGAL REPRESENTATIVE (THE COURTS) FOR PERMISSION TO SEE YOUR CHILD. AND EVEN THAN, 60% OF THE TIME, ACCORDING TO GOVERNMENT STUDIES, YOU WILL BE DENIED ACCESS TO YOUR CHILD, LOSING ALL CONTACT WITHIN FIVE YEARS.
SHE GOES TO CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT TO REQUEST AN ORDER PLACED ON YOU.
YOU GET SERVED.
YOU PAY FOR THE DNA TEST.
YOU PAY ALL COURT COSTS.
YOU PAY ATTORNEY FEES.
IF THE CHILD IS UP TO 18 YEARS OLD, YOU PAY RETROACTIVE CHILD SUPPORT, PLUS UP TO 18 YEARS INTEREST PENALTIES, BASED ON YOUR CURRENT INCOME, NOT WHAT YOU’VE EARNED OVER THE YEARS, EVEN IF YOU WERE UNDERAGE AND NOT WORKING AT THE TIME SHE GOT PREGNANT.
SINCE THE HEARING IS STRICKLY MEANT TO ESTABLISH SUPPORT, YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO FILE FOR CUSTODY AND/OR VISITATION RIGHTS. THAT REQUIRES A SEPARATE HEARING, WHICH YOU WILL ALSO PAY FOR.
WHETHER YOU ARE LIVING WITH HER OR NOT, YOU VOLUNTARILY SELL YOURSELF INTO SLAVERY THE MOMENT YOU TOOK YOUR PECKER OUT OF YOUR PANTS WITH A WOMAN YOU WERE NOT MARRIED TO. SHE HAS 100% OF THE RIGHTS AND YOU HAVE NONE.
I've worked with divorced and single fathers for 20 years.
You have an up mountain, not hill, battle ahead of you. In a word, prepare, prepare, prepare.
Get an order enter forcing a DNA test, unless one has already been done.
DO NOT PAY ANY KIND OF SUPPORT FOR THE CHILD UNTIL A DNA TEST IS DONE, AS IT ACKNOWLEDGES YOUR FINANCIALY RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE CHILD.
Once you begin paying child support, regardless of whether you are the father or not, you can be required to continue paying.
If one has been done, go to the child support enforcement to setup a voluntary order. Wait for them to file against you will result in you paying all court costs of up to $5000
Take a certified parenting course. The court is going to order you to take it anyway, so by showing you’ve taken it only looks good to them.
Start keeping a daily journal of all you activities. The most common way to prevent a father from getting his rights through the courts is a false allegation. A daily journal is your number one piece of evidence in court and you can even refer to it while on the stand.
Gather evidence. Check the site below to see if it is illegal to record conversations without the other person knowing. If your state does not have a law either way, than it defaults to the federal ruling which says one person in a conversation must know they are being recorded. You’re that one person. In Missouri it is specifically legal, in Kansas there is no mention either way. If you live in two different states, and one has a law against it, than it applies when the call originates from within that state,
http://www.rcfp.org/taping/
The court will order you into mediation, so take the lead first. Instead of hiring attorneys, suggest to her to go to a mediator and try to hammer out an agreement. A mediator is an attorney or paralegal with certified training as a mediator. You each have to pay half the fees in order for the mediator to have the appearance of being unbiased.
If you and the mother are civil, consider Bird Nest Custody. In this the child lives in one home and each parent live there for 3-4 weeks, than switch. You live with friends, family, rent a room, etc. on the off time. In this manner, your child’s life is not disrupted. They are not being shifted back and forth. They keep their own room, friends, school, etc. It is hard on the parents, but than the child comes first. This is the form of custody rocker Ted Nugent had.
http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoice
If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There's an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/
A couple of additional
http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/
http://www.parentalalienation.org/
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She won't accept child support but she also won't let him see his son. Does he have legal joint custody or what is the default if they weren't married and have a child together? There have been threats toward him or anyone that tries to go get the son. Isn't he legally able to see him or how does that work?
Because they were not married, it's possible paternity would have to be established. They do not have joint legal custody unless or until a court orders this. He needs to go to the courthouse and file the proper paperwork. (There should be templates at the courthouse that the clerk can direct him toward. These forms could also be online.) He can ask the court to order child support (which would make him look REALLY good) and can request visitation. If the court orders visitation she will not be able to prevent him from having access to his son.
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nor is there any visitation mentioned. Does this mean that the time is split evenly? Lately my ex has been taking extended vacations and leaving the kids with me and if it is joint shared custody, does this mean I should be compensated for the time away? We do have a parenting plan which just mentions the split of holidays and we are allowed a 2 week vacation during the summer months, etc.
I dont know why you would want to be compensated for caring FOR YOUR OWN CHILDREN!!!!!!! If the conditions of custody were not spelled out clearly and consisely, you may have divorce decree amended through the court. I presume no one pays child support in this situation? If the father of your children seems to be shirking his responsibility, remember why ya'll got divorced in the 1st place. He does not owe you anything and will try to get away with as much as he can. It is up to you to decide the quality of life for your kids. You can relight the "fire" and spend energy in a place that does NO GOOD for your kids or you can keep focused on loving them and doing the best you can for them and for yourself. Dont go to the hardware store looking for bread. And finally, talk with him about how you feel and what you would like to have happen. The rest is up to him. Be there for your kids..they need you.
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In a nut shell, we are working on our separation agreement, we have 3 kids and she left with them. I want joint custody and she is being hard nosed about it. I don't uderstand why she is fighting this so much! What benefit does she gain by having sole custody? I have reasonable access to the kids alwready, child support is being paid, no violence, no drug / alchohol abuse etc. The kids look forward to time with me and I do everything i can for them. I don't have a problem with her being the primary residence and she has alwready agreed to work together with any issues about the kids futures. Basicaly she is already doing joint custody but I am afraid to sign sole custody to her because I am afraid I may be missing something! I have no layer (Can't afford) she does (legal aid) Any info would be helpful.
I can't get legal aid (I tried and appealed, she can claim the kids as dependants and i can't!). I don't have the money for any more legals.
I agree with the others, DO NOT SIGN anything giving her sole custody. One thing you have going for you is status quo, try and keep it that way… the judge will see that as a good thing, and you don't want to miss out on things in your kids lives… if both parents are good, and fit, no reason why you shouldn't have joint custody… it is for the sake of the kids, no one else. Kids need BOTH parents in their lives, if the parents want it that way. I give you kudos for wanting to stay in the kids lives, and be a part of their lives… you don't see that very much.
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I've been married to my husband for 5.5 years and we have a 5 month old son.
My husband has had a history of affairs, lying to me, he threw away my wedding rings and made me believe I lost them, he left me several times and served me with divorce papers he decided not to file, he has isolated me from his family and mine by admittingly telling them lies about me so they would side with him and just recently I had to call the police and make a report because he threw a car seat at me while I was holding my baby.
I'm so stupid to have put up with this all these years and keep going back to him with his promise things will get better
I've decided to leave him and am trying to go about doing it the best way I can to be sure he will not get full custody of my baby…
Does anyone have advice or similar experience to share…I'm scared and my family is 3,000 miles away. I'm still living with my husband and am secretly trying to figure this out. I have a full time job with great benefits and can provide for my baby by just getting by….any suggestions would be so helpful. Thank you
Also…about 4 years ago I had an emotional breakdown from the stress of the affairs and our bad marriage. I sought psychiatric help….I haven't had problems since. Can he use this against me to take away my baby?
He probably can't use it against you and I think you should go for the gold. Do you have witnesses that he threw the car seat at you and your little baby? No unsupervised custody for him! Go for a a real junkyard dog divorce attorney,,,,,
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I pretty much gave up all I had to move to California (where I have family) in order for my autistic sons to get the best treatments and options they can. I don't even have a car right now! And I haven't even been with anyone for 2 years now! I'm not bad looking, or anything like that. I need someone, because going through this alone is Hell!
If I gave up all I had to get to California for the best autism treatment, WHY would I move anywhere else? Especially just to meet someone? I need real answers.
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp?StateProvince=CA
http://209.200.89.252/search_site/chapter_list.cfm?program_name=&state=CA
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Short report from William Wagener, OnSecondThought.TV, from Norton Massachusetts, in Sept. 2007,
Where Wayne CANN, the more stable parent had been denied Custody by a Family Court Judge, so that his Ex-wife, 41 year old Elizabeth CANN could get Child Support, WHICH brings equal amount of FREE
FEDERAL FUNDING, not to the children, but to the States bloated, over spending budget. So the States, make money. More Child Support, More FREE money from the FEDs, without directly raising taxes on the voters IN THE State.
Elizabeth CANN, did not possess the good judgement to keep a man with violent history OUT of her
life, and out of the lives of her and Wayne’s Daughters. As a result, Brittany and Danielle suffered
head shot wounds, which almost killed them and left one permanently blind in her left eye.
Had Wayne had custody, after it was CLEARLY known by CPS social workers, the court, and others
that Elizabeth’s Violent boyfriend, McDermott [who shot himself dead, after the murder of Elizabeth and the near fatal wounding of Waynes young daughters, on railroad tracks and was run over by a train].
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