Divorce and child custody in California – desperate situation?
I've been married to my husband for 5.5 years and we have a 5 month old son.
My husband has had a history of affairs, lying to me, he threw away my wedding rings and made me believe I lost them, he left me several times and served me with divorce papers he decided not to file, he has isolated me from his family and mine by admittingly telling them lies about me so they would side with him and just recently I had to call the police and make a report because he threw a car seat at me while I was holding my baby.
I'm so stupid to have put up with this all these years and keep going back to him with his promise things will get better
I've decided to leave him and am trying to go about doing it the best way I can to be sure he will not get full custody of my baby…
Does anyone have advice or similar experience to share…I'm scared and my family is 3,000 miles away. I'm still living with my husband and am secretly trying to figure this out. I have a full time job with great benefits and can provide for my baby by just getting by….any suggestions would be so helpful. Thank you
Also…about 4 years ago I had an emotional breakdown from the stress of the affairs and our bad marriage. I sought psychiatric help….I haven't had problems since. Can he use this against me to take away my baby?
He probably can't use it against you and I think you should go for the gold. Do you have witnesses that he threw the car seat at you and your little baby? No unsupervised custody for him! Go for a a real junkyard dog divorce attorney,,,,,
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February 25th, 2009 at 12:09 am
All that mess & you brought a baby into this situation.
Hmmm. Leave him & as soon as you do file for custody papers.
Contact your family, they will (should be) always willing to help you out.
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February 25th, 2009 at 12:39 am
He probably can't use it against you and I think you should go for the gold. Do you have witnesses that he threw the car seat at you and your little baby? No unsupervised custody for him! Go for a a real junkyard dog divorce attorney,,,,,
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February 25th, 2009 at 12:58 am
Its extremely uncommon for a father to gain full custody away from a mother unless she has been deemed unfit. It often takes quite a lot for them to define her as an unfit parent.
As far as your psychiatric help, that is understandable ! Goodness, being cheated on once is hard enough but repeatedly along with the other crud he pulled? The records would show it was most likely a type of post-traumatic stress from his actions. There is no way a judge would take away your child because you sought out help due to your husbands horrendous actions.
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http://www.divorce4her.com/support.html
February 25th, 2009 at 1:41 am
You need to find a really good divorce lawyer in your area. You need to research this – get someone good not some idiot hack. Make an appointment during the day – take time off from work or go on your lunch. The lawyer can tell you what you need to do and how to get started. Expect to pay.
If this is not possible, consider contacting an abused women's group and getting into a shelter with the baby. Typically, these groups are experienced in nasty divorces and can put you in touch with a network of lawyers who specialize in these cases.
I wish you luck.
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