I was with a guy on and off for 4 years, I was really young like 17 and finally got the guts to leave. He was really abusive and controlling, well in that time we had 2 children. He hasnt been there since the breakup over 3 1/2 years ago 4 in August. I had to get a restraining order on him because it got so bad. He even attacked my mom. I know it was stupid to get involved but i cant go back in time. Well we have gone to court twice and both times after the judge ordered him to do something he left, and then tried to pop back in. Well its been 2 years since he has called or seen my kids and never once paid any child support( fine with me, dont want his dirty money) he just vanished well now he tracked me down saying he wants the kids and that if I dont let him see them he will violate the restraining order and see them anyway or wait til the restraining order is up and then see them. I have created a very healthy lifestyle for my kids, with no drugs alcohol or violence. I am so afriad of what might happen, I have never been the type of female to pull a child away from the dad but he just wouldnt get right. He told my son at 5 that its ok to get drunk and smoke pot and be a gang member. I prayed he would change but it did not happen….Well to everyone out there please help and please no haters if you knew the full length story you might understand better. I only want whats better for children??????

Whats best for the kids is to keep them away from the creep. If he violates the RO, call the cops. When the RO is set to expire, get a new one. Call your FSD and let them work on the support. Maybe you don’t want the dirty money, but the kids deserve it for their future. Family Support Divisoins are like Pit Bulls. Turn them loose and make the creeps life miserable!

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