child custody, mother v. father…?
which standard do you think is better Maternal deferance standard or best interest of child standard?
Maternal Deference- judges should render child custody to women over men because mothers have deep emotional ties formed during pregnancy, infancy, and when child is very young. The mother is emotionally closer to the child,
best interest of child- one who better fit to raise the child. financially, religiously, would give the child a better life.
It is all a matter of opinion and perspective. Her opinion is the same as his only towards her point of view. That is why the judge and child services tries to remain neutral when determining custody.
Money and stuff is a poor substitute for love.
March 17th, 2008 at 7:47 pm
It is all a matter of opinion and perspective. Her opinion is the same as his only towards her point of view. That is why the judge and child services tries to remain neutral when determining custody.
Money and stuff is a poor substitute for love.
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March 17th, 2008 at 7:48 pm
Best interest in the child HELLO? Do you know how many mothers accuse the guy of doing something, when he's WAY more of a better parent? I think it should be investigated fully and who can offer the child the right life, emotionally, physically, financially, psychologically…etc.
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March 17th, 2008 at 8:21 pm
I believe that the best interests of the child should be considered first and foremost. I don't believe that financial and religious aptitude should be weighed so heavily, though. Provided that neither parent is abusive or neglectful in some way, I believe that joint/shared custody should be the standard. Both parents should play an equal part in the child's life… financially, spiritually, emotionally, physically, etc. The reason that this is not possible in most cases is that adults fail to act as adults when they divorce. Regardless of what they say, their actions prove that it's usually both parents who fail to place the child as a top priority. They're too busy being bitter with one another and believing that someone has to "win". Children are not pawns to be fought over. They are wonderful blessings in our lives who deserve the love and full support of both parents… equally.
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Divorced 6 years, and we share custody. While we live too far apart for them to be both places during the school week (he chose to move), they are with their father at every opportunity during the school year and for most of the summer. We are both present for all of their extracurricular events and school meetings. We share the financial responsibility, and have never gone strictly by what the court system defined regarding visitation/custody and child support. While we simply cannot live together as husband and wife, we do whatever is best for our children. They are first, always.
March 21st, 2008 at 6:44 am
Mother's do NOT always have the closest tie with their child. Some put their children into dumpsters when they are born.
The best interest of a child (which I don't think has ANYTHING to do with religion – other than educating them to the fact that there are lots of religious choices out there for them to make when they are ready) – is what's most important. It has to do with much more than religion and money. TIME and BRAINS are probably the two most important things you can share with a kid.
Sometimes the best interest is not the mother or the father – but a loving aunt, a grandparent, or even a foster parent who wants to adopt.
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