i am a unwed mother living in nc what are my child custody rights if the father isnt on the birth certificate?
child custody nc
i really dont have time for those of you who are here to do nothing but make assumptions and insult me.i take this very seriously and im here to get real answers from poeple who know what they are talking about.
i dont want to get to personal with this but i need to give details to clarify some of the answers i am getting i know who the father of my child is we were together for a lil over a year honestly we weren’t living the best lifestyle and didnt mean to get pregnant he and his family are involved with drugs so was i but when i found out i was pregnant i completely changed my life around for my bby boy b/c he deserves the best and a fair chance at life with a good role model but the father refuses to do so him self and he thinks that he can bring my child into that world so i want to know what my rights are if he was to try to come and take the baby from me???
Illegitimate children born as a result of shacking up without taking the responsibility of getting married first are in the sole custody and control of the mother in 49 states by default, and without the need of the court to legitimize the immoral behavior, regardless of whether of not to name of the co-shack up is on the birth certificate or not. But, this can change quickly, as that’s what I teach the co-shack ups how to get equal rights, preferably Bird Nest Custody.
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February 25th, 2010 at 12:51 pm
Well,you are the mother and you have full custody of the child
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February 25th, 2010 at 1:12 pm
if the father aint on the birth certificate he has no custody rights to the kid
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February 25th, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Ignore those idiots. They’re just mad cuz they ain’t gettin any.
Does the child have his name and is he in the child’s life? You weren’t married to him. He also isn’t on the birth certificate. You are standing on pretty good grounds as far as your rights.
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February 25th, 2010 at 2:10 pm
Dennis is right. Unless the father’s name is on the birth certificate, he has about as much rights to that child as I do. He cannot get any rights unless there is an mutual agreement between you two to add his name or he has to pay (out of his own pocket) for a paternity test and then the courts will add his name. Until his name is on that document, no one has any rights to your child but yourself.
That said, you cannot seek child support unless his name is added to the birth certificate or he is genetically proven be the child’s father.
Good luck and i hope that helps.
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February 25th, 2010 at 2:58 pm
i went through the same thing with my daughter 10 yrs ago and I can tell you even if his name isn’t on the birth certificate he can still pursue custody. this is how it happens #1 he will have to prove paternity,with that test his name doesn’t have to be on the birth certificate to get full custody. the way the law sees it custody hasn’t been established yet.All he would have to do is walk in the front door,grab the baby and walk out the back door and not tell you where he is going.If he does that, it could buy him enough time to get a temporary full custody order. After that you would be fighting the court system for up to a year until a decision is made. My advise is don’t let that baby out of your sight until you get a lawyer and get the ball rolling.
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custody battle that lasted 2 yrs.(her mother skipped town)
February 25th, 2010 at 3:33 pm
Most of the others are right. In most states unmarried mothers are presumed to have custody of the child from birth, no matter if a father is added to the birth cert or not! And in Ohio, EVEN if you do put him on the birth cert. the mom is STILL considered to be the legal custodian. ( I know cause I went through it last year ). If their is no father on the birth certificate, it is presumed their is no father/father unknown. So NO ONE has rights to your son BUT you!!!…until HE coughs up roughly 4-6 hundred dollars for a paternity test ( which he most likely wont ) OR you add him to the birth cert. He has no rights at all sweety. The court only recognizes legal documents ( not word of mouth )
At this point, if he were to take your son without your approval, it would be kidnapping!
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Im a mom of 4. Between the ages of 9-16….
February 25th, 2010 at 3:38 pm
It’s not to your advantage to leave the father’s name off the birth certificate. If he really wants custody, he’ll force you into DNA testing, and then petition the Court to have his name added. If this guy really wants to come after your child, not naming him on the BC will not help.
On the other hand, naming him entitles your child to his support, which could mean a world of difference to him/her. If it’s at all possible, involving the father is a very good idea. It will take the pressure off of you; and, statistically, it is proven to help develop a healthier, happier child.
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February 25th, 2010 at 4:21 pm
If you want real answers from those who know what they are talking about, you would get an attorney, consult legal aid, tell them your situation and go from there. Those are the people who know what to do.
You will need to find out who the father is, get DNA tests ordered and get the father’s name on the birth certificate. From there, you will sort out visitation, child support, etc. He may even give up his parental rights if he doesn’t care about the child. BUT…this should have been done through an attorney/legal aid when your child was born.
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February 25th, 2010 at 4:31 pm
if you were REALLY SERIOUS then don’t YOU think you would ask the advise of a LAWYER….. WOULDN’T THAT BE THE SMART AND LOGICAL THING CONSIDERING THAT IS HIS/HER AREA OF EXPERTISE…. HMM BUY MAYBE YAHOO ANSWERS IS FULL OF LAWYERS???
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February 25th, 2010 at 4:50 pm
you have full custody if its you on the birth certificate and u gave birth 2 them they are 100% yours
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February 25th, 2010 at 5:01 pm
Illegitimate children born as a result of shacking up without taking the responsibility of getting married first are in the sole custody and control of the mother in 49 states by default, and without the need of the court to legitimize the immoral behavior, regardless of whether of not to name of the co-shack up is on the birth certificate or not. But, this can change quickly, as that’s what I teach the co-shack ups how to get equal rights, preferably Bird Nest Custody.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=siYERfu5Mvk
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February 25th, 2010 at 5:18 pm
he cant do that, not unless, you were not a good mother to your child, which i doubt it. hey, why not ask someone say, police or legal opinions that would really help you in this issue. honestly, he wont have any rights since he is hooked and what would he give to your child?
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http://www.replacemenbirthcertificate.org
November 19th, 2010 at 2:06 am
I have a son with this man that is not on my sons birth certificate as the father but he is the father, We both live in NC and we have been sharing a verbal arggrement one sharing weeks no legal action has been made. We were doing one week with me and one week his dad for over a year now until 2 weeks ago and now he refuses to give me my son, he will not answer the phone or return my messages. Does he have the legal right to do this? How can I get my son back in my arms again?