How do i stop a father for getting custody of a child he hasn’t been around since birth?
My girlfriend has a daughter that 1 years on and her father hasn’t been around since birth. and now he decided he wants to take custody of the little girl i call my daughter. What can i do to stop this from happening?
Focus on the very point you have made here in your question!!…Here in the UK,If a parent has not lived with or had regular contact with a child,especially from birth then they do actually sacrifice some of their parental rights and have to fight through the court just for access to see the child.
You need to prove that her ex has not been around since the baby’s birth,has not contributed financially or anything,playing on the fact that her daughter would simply view him as a ‘stranger’ as opposed to ‘father’..and that in light of this you all feel that it is far from in the best interests of the little girl that contact be forced!.
Im not sure how much the US law differs but I would not worry too much,I shouldn’t think you will have too harder case proving the above!.
Here in the UK..You would have more rights to the little girl having been the one that she knows and has formed a relationship with..After all..being a Dad is in the actions not the name!.
I wish you the very best of luck
xxx
July 6th, 2010 at 12:23 am
Unfortunately in the American system it is all dependent on a lawyer. Either you outsmart the father in court or find a lawyer who can.
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July 6th, 2010 at 12:31 am
1) Its not your place you are just a boyfriend.
2) He has every right to his daughter unless he is abusive.
3) She has every right to her father unless he is abusive.
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July 6th, 2010 at 1:08 am
you cant do anything as your not the biological father, but the mother in most cases gets fully custody unless she wants the father to have the child or she is medically ill and cant cope.
also the fact that he hasn’t given any support will go against him. so the likely hood of him getting full custody is pretty much nothing. but i would seek advice from citizens advice or a lawyer
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July 6th, 2010 at 1:16 am
Focus on the very point you have made here in your question!!…Here in the UK,If a parent has not lived with or had regular contact with a child,especially from birth then they do actually sacrifice some of their parental rights and have to fight through the court just for access to see the child.
You need to prove that her ex has not been around since the baby’s birth,has not contributed financially or anything,playing on the fact that her daughter would simply view him as a ‘stranger’ as opposed to ‘father’..and that in light of this you all feel that it is far from in the best interests of the little girl that contact be forced!.
Im not sure how much the US law differs but I would not worry too much,I shouldn’t think you will have too harder case proving the above!.
Here in the UK..You would have more rights to the little girl having been the one that she knows and has formed a relationship with..After all..being a Dad is in the actions not the name!.
I wish you the very best of luck
xxx
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July 6th, 2010 at 1:48 am
A judge would have to find the mother unfit for him to get custody. The judge may grant visitation but he would never gran custody with out a good reason. You really have nothing to worry about unless the child is neglected.
If the father hasn’t been involved in her life in the past the chances of him changing are slim.
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July 6th, 2010 at 1:56 am
im sorry
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July 6th, 2010 at 2:01 am
Sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, you are only a boyfriend. You can not regulate what the father gets or does not get. This is between the mother and father of the child. I am glad you think of the baby as yours even though she is not your blood. Not many do that for the child. You just have to suggest things to mom about this…it is ultimately up to her to do anything.
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July 6th, 2010 at 2:07 am
I am a step parent and rule number one, you can call her your daughter if you guys are married, but not if you are just dating. Never allow her to call you daddy, she has one, he may be a worthless piece of crap, but that is her daddy and it is important for people to know where they come from.
My step son calls me by my first name, my husband has custody and his mother is the most worthless…argg,…story for another time. Anyway, that is his mom, and there is nothing i can do about that.
In your case you need to calm your gf’s fears. No court will give custody to a man who doesn’t know his own kid and hasn’t provided support. Now he will be entitled to visitation, but that is his right, and he might be a better dad than he was a boyfriend, only time will tell, but you have to give him the chance to man up and be a part of his child’s life.
He won’t get custody though, and if he wants visitation your gf will get child support….so at least there is an upside.
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