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Parent Custody â One parentâs look at a broken custody and support system

admin — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 17:44:33 +0000

I am a father of three boys. I have one of them living with me as his mother had some “issues”. I am the one with parent custody (placement is the actual correct term here). The other two are living with their mom and I haven’t seen them in about a year and a half due to her new husband and father in law both being lawyers and some mistakes in dealing with her on my part. So obviously in this case she is the one who has parent custody.

One of the problems that I have seen in this system, which has worked both for and against me, is that unless you can afford a lawyer, your rights usually are not enforced. This is something that can be good and bad, but will rarely take into account what is best for the child or children. If both parties are reasonable, they can usually work things out, even if neither is entirely comfortable with the end result. This is usually when both parents are looking out for the child as opposed to their own self-interests.

The flip side of this is that one or both parties are not reasonable. This is far more common, and will usually end with either the person who is able to best afford the lawyer getting their way, assuming it’s not totally outrageous, or an ongoing legal battle in which the children become pawns. Neither of these options are good for the kids more often than not.

People need to learn to drop their agendas, their personal hurts, their own selfish wants and whatever bad feelings are left over for the sake of their kids. This in and of itself would solve a lot of issues when it comes to the parent custody issue. Think about it, and then think of your kids. It can make all the difference in the world.

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How to get legal custody of a child in the state of missouri how is not blood related?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:13:16 +0000

My wife and I took in child who happens to be my wife niece child. We have had the child in our care since she left the hospital as a baby and we just wanna get legal custody of her now were on all of her doctor and daycare paper work and we have supported her from day one were the only parents she knows

First and foremost, you need to get an attorney licensed in family law. Each states laws are a bit different.

If you have not already been doing so, you should start documenting your involvement with the child in a diary/journal, recording expenses, etc… Since you did not mention the birth mother as being active in the child’s life, I am assuming her presence is either minimal or non-existant. Start documenting any and all involvement (financial, physical or otherwise) in the child’s life as well. The more documentation you can provide the better off you will be. The fact that the doctor and daycare workers know you is a good sign, but do they also know the birth mother really well from doctor and daycare visits? All of these things may come up.

You might want to do some research on DadsDivorce.com, it’s a free research website for men facing various family law issues such as adoption and custody. Learn what you can about the process there but be sure to speak to a licensed attorney to learn what legal steps you need to take and what preparations you need to be making.

what are my child custody rights in california?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:13:01 +0000

my gf of 7 yrs hit me with a temporary restraining order which also gave her tempoary custody of our 3 kids. Is my only hope of getting full custody restored based upon who files for custody first?- given that I can prove the kids are in my care at least 50% of the time and that she works odd hours and basically cant provide adequate child care while she works??

You will have to take it to court and file for custody there!

Need more info about florida child custody?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:12:47 +0000

Me and my wife are getting legaly seperated till we can afford a divorce.
But my question my wife cant afford to live alone with my son and she said she will have to move 3 hours away from were we live with her mom but I dont think thats fair my son is attatched to me and I wanna know is there a law were she cant move a certain amount of miles away from me or something?

( we live in florida)

i was seperated from my ma from florida to jersey with my dad(:

Texas/California child custody enforcement question.?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:12:43 +0000

Can someone with a custody order come to California and have the order enforced if the order has not been filed in California.

My Sister is going through a nasty custody battle. She is very young and didn’t hire a lawyer when she was served divorce papers. She wasn’t notified of any court date and all custody and property was given to her common law husband in Texas. She filed for a retrial and it was denied. In Texas the court system is so strange. No one will help you, unless you hire a lawyer and she doesn’t have the money for that.

My husband went through similar issues with my step sons mother, except she lost custody due to her having serious bipolar disorder and not being on medication. Long story short the judge told us that if we ever allowed my step son to visit Las Vegas (Where his mother lives) then the court order from California would have to be filed in Nevada for us to be able to enforce it.

I guess what I am getting at is, would it be the same for a court order in Texas being enforced in California? My lawyer said that IF he files a motion to have it filed in California then there was a possibility we could ask for the order to be modified. Anyone have any free legal advice for us?

Yeah, NEVER, EVER, ignore court papers. Your sister basically lost custody because she didn’t try to get custody.

Your sister’s f**k up has made this a very complicated legal matter. She should get an experienced attorney.

Who is the best child custody lawyer in texas? Help me bring my baby home!?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:12:39 +0000

My daughters’ father has kidnapped her and i have done everything i can to get her back and every law enforcement officer ive spoken to has told me to get a lawyer. I need to know the best lawyer in texas because i have to bring my lucy home before he does somethin bad and makes a wrond decision and gets her hurt. please help me please!

First, I have a hard time believing that if this was a legitimate kidnapping law enforcement would do nothing. Further, if LE knew she was in danger, they would be issuing amber alerts and everyone would be looking for her.

Now, I’m not saying you don’t have a problem that needs solved, but lets not be so dramatic about it. The fact is that if you really felt she was in such danger, why would you turn to the internet to save her?

Having said that, a local lawyer will most likely be your best option. hiring the best in Texas may require a lot more financial backing than a local lawyer. Because you are asking this question here, I presume your funding is likely limited. So, to find the best lawyer in your area, open a phone book, call a few, ask what their win to loss ratio is, and see which one you like the best.

What are the chances my husband will get what he requests for visitation and custody rights?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:12:35 +0000

My husband has a mediation appointment in two weeks, he is requesting to see his son(his son from a past relationship)on everyother weekend and have some custody throught the week. Can someone tell me what are his chances of getting what is asked granted. I know it depends on what they both(my husband and the ex decide) but has anyone else know of a similar case or know what will happen in a case like this?

he will probably get what he wants unless there is some reason that he shouldnt, he deserves what ever time he asks for…the mediation is to see if they can come to an agreement, but the final decision is up to the judge.

I have split custody with my ex-wife. I am relocating to a new state what forms do i need?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:12:31 +0000

My ex-wife is fine with me moving and she is actually going to move to the same city and continue split custody with our child. But just in case she ever changes her mind what forms should I get her to sign? we live in Texas if that matters.

I am not a lawyer, all I can do is tell you the nightmare a friend of mine went through because of this very thing! It took her two years and she lost tax rights to her son because her x got a lawyer and they maneuvered the paperwork. She got out of it ok and got tax rights back after she got Legal Shield and was able to afford-ably go over the paper work and get the help she needed from a lawyer. There is a one time courtesy call if you want to call and ask. But then I suggest you purchase the service.
Sorry to sounds like a salesperson, but fathers tend to get the raw end of the deal and I hate that!

If you have questions, my email is on the site. Good Luck!

should the number of children and the number of fathers be factored into custody decisions?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:12:27 +0000

a woman that has 4 kids from 3 or 4 different fathers clearly makes bad decisions.

should that play a role in custody decisions?
no, the kid should be taken away.

and increasingly…they are being taken away. granted the fathers are not douchebags like the mothers

Yes. If mom is purposefully getting knocked up then leaving dads for the child support which can be obnoxiously high. That is abuse. Its psychological but its still abuse.

can social services do a DNA test on a father if the mother does not have custody in North Carolina?

admin — Thu, 17 May 2012 12:12:20 +0000

my ex boyfriend could be the father of his ex’s child she slept with a lot of people and now had given custody to her parents . Can My boyfriend still go threw social services to find out if she is his daughter without her mother having custody of her ?

Social svcs doesnt do anything like that. DNA tests are done through very expensive, private companies, that you hire with your own money. And even then, no one has to submit to it, unless they are ordered to do so by the courts. To even get to the courts, you must hire an attorney. A private attorney that you hire, will also be very expensive.

Why he wants to find out if it’s his child, Idk. Because that is going to be an expense on HIM if the child is his. And if he is your bf now, that means this child is going to affect YOUR finances too, if you live with him. If the child is well taken care of by her parents, I’d leave it be and wait til the child is 18 to go ahead and have reunions to get the "i’m your father" conversations out of the way… Good luck. Also, "threw" is like a ball you throw. "through" means like going THROUGH a process, like the courts, etc.