child custody, why would she fight me on joint custody?
In a nut shell, we are working on our separation agreement, we have 3 kids and she left with them. I want joint custody and she is being hard nosed about it. I don't uderstand why she is fighting this so much! What benefit does she gain by having sole custody? I have reasonable access to the kids alwready, child support is being paid, no violence, no drug / alchohol abuse etc. The kids look forward to time with me and I do everything i can for them. I don't have a problem with her being the primary residence and she has alwready agreed to work together with any issues about the kids futures. Basicaly she is already doing joint custody but I am afraid to sign sole custody to her because I am afraid I may be missing something! I have no layer (Can't afford) she does (legal aid) Any info would be helpful.
I can't get legal aid (I tried and appealed, she can claim the kids as dependants and i can't!). I don't have the money for any more legals.
I agree with the others, DO NOT SIGN anything giving her sole custody. One thing you have going for you is status quo, try and keep it that way… the judge will see that as a good thing, and you don't want to miss out on things in your kids lives… if both parents are good, and fit, no reason why you shouldn't have joint custody… it is for the sake of the kids, no one else. Kids need BOTH parents in their lives, if the parents want it that way. I give you kudos for wanting to stay in the kids lives, and be a part of their lives… you don't see that very much.
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February 25th, 2009 at 12:50 am
She is not just your ex, but now your enemy. If you cannot afford a lawyer, try legal aid just like she has got.
Sounds like a total "bitch" to me and a decent judge will not grant her sole custody unless your a complete mess.
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February 25th, 2009 at 1:01 am
Do not give her sole custody, you will be waiving your rights to make any decisions concerning your children. She can fight you but she won't win.
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February 25th, 2009 at 1:31 am
She just wants to be able to have the say so in everything and you not be able to have say so in things with her. Get legal aid, They will help you and you can get joint/shared parenting. Good luck!!
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February 25th, 2009 at 2:10 am
Do not sign this agreement if you ever want to see your kids again. If there is no history of abuse or abandonment then it is important that you retain and ask for joint custody. She wants sole custody so she can take the kids anywhere she wants to go, so unless you don't want them anymore you better stand up and fight. Get a lawyer.
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February 25th, 2009 at 2:16 am
I agree with the others, DO NOT SIGN anything giving her sole custody. One thing you have going for you is status quo, try and keep it that way… the judge will see that as a good thing, and you don't want to miss out on things in your kids lives… if both parents are good, and fit, no reason why you shouldn't have joint custody… it is for the sake of the kids, no one else. Kids need BOTH parents in their lives, if the parents want it that way. I give you kudos for wanting to stay in the kids lives, and be a part of their lives… you don't see that very much.
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