Joint Custody: Does your child stop crying after you take them from the other parent?
If a child is not used to going with you, and you have or had a new parenting time plan put into effect that says you can take your child out for visitation, and they started crying for the other parent when you took them, did they eventually stop crying and get used to it? My daughter is 2 1/2 years old. I was wondering if anybody had this kind of experience and how it went for them?
Just keep re-enforcing the idea that you are SOOO excited to see her and that it is your turn now and that both mommy and daddy love her so much.
This behavior will stop once she realizes that you always bring her back to her mommy too, and you always pick her up when you say you will. Kids go through this with daycares too. One parent drops them off and they pitch a fit "don’t leave me, they are mean to me, i want to stay with you"…then you call in 10 minutes and they are having the time of there life, no more crying or anything.
Kids like to test you, just keep telling her you love her and miss her and get her engaged in the conversation, "I thought we should go eat somewhere special, where do you want to eat?", I got you this stuffed animal, what do you think we should call him? Is it a him or a her?"
Get them talking, then they forget they are suppose tobe pitching a fit. Also logic works really well, if she is crying for her mommy tell her "I love you and I want to spend time with you, why are you crying", then she might say "because I want my mommy", then you say "don’t I always bring you back to your mommy?….can’t we have some time together?" You know I always bring you back, let’s have some fun now."
February 22nd, 2010 at 4:21 pm
Yes
Joint Custody
"My parents divorced when I was 2 years old. Because I was so young, I cannot remember anything of how the divorce actually felt at the time. But 12 years later, I am quite content with my life and my parents. Unlike many divorced couples with children, neither parent has primary custody of me, but rather, I switch between my parents’ houses every other day, spending roughly equal time with my mother and my father."
Equal Time – A Teen’s Views On Joint Custody
Charlotte Juerge
Newsweek – Dec 15, 2008
http://www.newsweek.com/id/174698
James Cook, the father of joint custody passed away a year ago next week.
Personally, I prefer Bird Nest Custody
http://www.ehow.com/how_5922243_propose-other-child-custody-arrangements.html
http://waits4u.com/dad/forms/WhenTheKidsGetTheHouse.pdf
I hope you’re keeping a daily journal. The mother may be trying to make the child scared of you.
http://www.ehow.com/how_5909856_keep-use-family-law-cases.html
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February 22nd, 2010 at 4:51 pm
yes they do but takes awhile just keep reassuring them talk to them it gets easier i have been their with my own kids goodluck
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February 22nd, 2010 at 5:32 pm
Just keep re-enforcing the idea that you are SOOO excited to see her and that it is your turn now and that both mommy and daddy love her so much.
This behavior will stop once she realizes that you always bring her back to her mommy too, and you always pick her up when you say you will. Kids go through this with daycares too. One parent drops them off and they pitch a fit "don’t leave me, they are mean to me, i want to stay with you"…then you call in 10 minutes and they are having the time of there life, no more crying or anything.
Kids like to test you, just keep telling her you love her and miss her and get her engaged in the conversation, "I thought we should go eat somewhere special, where do you want to eat?", I got you this stuffed animal, what do you think we should call him? Is it a him or a her?"
Get them talking, then they forget they are suppose tobe pitching a fit. Also logic works really well, if she is crying for her mommy tell her "I love you and I want to spend time with you, why are you crying", then she might say "because I want my mommy", then you say "don’t I always bring you back to your mommy?….can’t we have some time together?" You know I always bring you back, let’s have some fun now."
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