I am involved with a woman and found out 10 years ago she lost custody of her son and was allowed only supervised visitation. Wouldn’t it have to be a very serious issue? I don’t want to marry this woman and have kids if she has serious issues!
Either she was a serious drug user or it was shown that she was abusive to her child/children.It has to be pretty severe for a mother to have lost custody & with supervised visitation,the state must see her as a threat to the child’s well being,both physically & emotionally.She’s is keeping something from you so if she can’t be honest & open up about this stuff,you need to reconsider the relationship.If it were me,I would cut all ties & walk.It might be hard at first but it will be harder if you stick around.
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If she committed a felony, kidnapping, endangerment to a minor. anything relating to a minor.
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She is a crack head, stay away.
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child molestation
murder under certain circumstances
attempted murder
attempted suicide
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if she is mad
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being an unsuitable parent, drug use or possession, child abuse? Just some ideas.
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People change you know… well, sometimes… well, not too much really…
I can only think of Drugs or other crimes, sorry.
Did she trust you this or have you find out for yourself?
Research her past then
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A few of the obvious reasons would be…..maybe she was abusive, addicted to drugs, or considered harmful to herself or others. There may be other reasons also. Maybe you should talk to her since you are involved. If there is ANY chane of a future with her you should definitely know the reason and she should fess up.
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My little mind
It could be something serious or she could’ve been financially unstable during a divorce to support the child. Either way you’re going to have to ask her, her ex, or get a background check. It’s better to know beforehand than find out too late! Good Luck!
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For such an outcome she must have been found guilty of child abuse. Sometimes these cases are a bit muddy, but I agree with you, before you consider starting a family with this woman you should find out more.
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Either she was a serious drug user or it was shown that she was abusive to her child/children.It has to be pretty severe for a mother to have lost custody & with supervised visitation,the state must see her as a threat to the child’s well being,both physically & emotionally.She’s is keeping something from you so if she can’t be honest & open up about this stuff,you need to reconsider the relationship.If it were me,I would cut all ties & walk.It might be hard at first but it will be harder if you stick around.
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Um, how about you ask her why she was only allowed supervised visits. My ex is only allowed supervised visits because of a restraining order I had against him for domestic violence.
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My friend kinda went through the same thing. She had been engaged to a guy who was not her baby’s daddy. Things had been going good until a few months went by, and she was noticing bruises on her son’s arms and legs. She called his daycare to demand what had happened, but the daycare said that he had showed up with the bruises.
She found out that her fiance’ had been hitting her son! He said the first time was an accident, and then it got out of control. She made poor judgement, and she had her child taken from her for 2 years with supervised visits.
I understand it’s not always this case, and that there are more serious issues involved, like drug usage and such, but maybe you should ask her about it until you pass judgement on the woman you love.
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Why don’t you ask her and find out.
It takes an extra special woman to actually lose custody of her children. And supervised visitation would indicate that she wasn’t trusted to be alone with her kids.
Before getting serious with her, you really need to find out what happened and whether or not she tries to see her kids, pays child support, and is a good parent.
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Why don’t you ask her? I don’t think it is prying, you’re in a relationship so you need to be open and honest with one another – and if she reacts badly and refuses to share then I think you can take it as a given that it was something fairly bad. Generally for the courts to remove custody from the mother, and especially to only award supervised visitation, it would have to be something fairly extreme, often something on the neglect or milder end of the abuse spectrum (for severe abuse she would hopefully have done jail time, which I assume she’d have mentioned if that was the case). People do change, but I personally would not consider having children with someone with a history of abuse/neglect, even if I was sure they’d changed it just wouldn’t be worth the risk for me. But it may have been something like a drug addiction which she has since overcome and put in her past – in which case she may be worth giving a chance. Talk to her and ask for honesty.
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Depends if she was a drunk, did drugs, etc or was proved unfit. 10 years is a long time so things could have changed, Just ask her why.
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yo really should go online and pay to have a background check done her or ask her wat happened
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She messed up in some way, shape, or form. 10 years is a long time. She may have turned herself around.
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My first thought is: If you are even considering marrying this woman then you need to talk to her about this issue. If you are close enough to get married then you are close enough to know everything…good and bad…about each other.
As for what good have happened…I’m thinking drugs, drinking problems, DUI, unsuitable licing conditions, felonys (murder, robbery, etc..).
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You should definitely have a sit down and ask her for a straight answer why. Also, there could be a public record of what exactly happened. You could go and look for yourself. If you are thinking about marrying this woman then there should be no secrets between you. Also, essentially you will have a stepson, too. I would find out everything before making any life-changing decisions.
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Ask hre, for all you know the dad was a really good liar and made her seem horrible. Or maybe she was horrible but isn’t anymore, or maybe she is this person but you just havent seen that side of her.
She might have had really bad PND and couldn’t cope and wasn’t a stable mum, maybe she’s had it treated…there are so many possibilities.
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i knew a girl she was 14 when she had her son. he was taken away because they didn;t think she would be able to take care of him and she had a few depression/stress issues. she got him back only to leave him with her mom (who lost her to CPS) and took off for a few days. CPS took her son and placed him in a foster home where she only got supervised visitations.
i also know a girl (she was 19 when she had her second) who had her kids taken away because she didn;t have a house and the childrens father had a drug/anger problem. she only gets supervised visitation. shes fighting to get her kids back now she has a place, shes gotten rid of him and shes completely clean. shes a good person and i truely hope she gets her kids back because she did a complete turn around. shes healthy, stable, and she will be happy when she has her kids back with her. she was just in a bad place with a bad person. she herself was a good person who just got lost
not everyone who gets there kids taken away are horrible people.. some make mistakes.. some find themselves unable to take care of children for different reasons.. some its for the childs safety
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My sister in law lost custody of her children and has only supervised visitation. She lost custody of her children due to a severe drug problem and the supervised visitation is because the father decided to not allow her to visit the children and lied about it in court. Her mother actually told her to request the supervised visitation to ensure that she did get the visitation.
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losing custody can be because dad had more money for better lawyers
Supervised can simply be temporary because of allegations made in court ..proven or not
Or could be a bad mom..you have to ask..and research
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