If you have joint shared custody with no custodial parent mentioned in the divorce decree?
nor is there any visitation mentioned. Does this mean that the time is split evenly? Lately my ex has been taking extended vacations and leaving the kids with me and if it is joint shared custody, does this mean I should be compensated for the time away? We do have a parenting plan which just mentions the split of holidays and we are allowed a 2 week vacation during the summer months, etc.
I dont know why you would want to be compensated for caring FOR YOUR OWN CHILDREN!!!!!!! If the conditions of custody were not spelled out clearly and consisely, you may have divorce decree amended through the court. I presume no one pays child support in this situation? If the father of your children seems to be shirking his responsibility, remember why ya'll got divorced in the 1st place. He does not owe you anything and will try to get away with as much as he can. It is up to you to decide the quality of life for your kids. You can relight the "fire" and spend energy in a place that does NO GOOD for your kids or you can keep focused on loving them and doing the best you can for them and for yourself. Dont go to the hardware store looking for bread. And finally, talk with him about how you feel and what you would like to have happen. The rest is up to him. Be there for your kids..they need you.
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February 28th, 2009 at 2:56 am
I dont know why you would want to be compensated for caring FOR YOUR OWN CHILDREN!!!!!!! If the conditions of custody were not spelled out clearly and consisely, you may have divorce decree amended through the court. I presume no one pays child support in this situation? If the father of your children seems to be shirking his responsibility, remember why ya'll got divorced in the 1st place. He does not owe you anything and will try to get away with as much as he can. It is up to you to decide the quality of life for your kids. You can relight the "fire" and spend energy in a place that does NO GOOD for your kids or you can keep focused on loving them and doing the best you can for them and for yourself. Dont go to the hardware store looking for bread. And finally, talk with him about how you feel and what you would like to have happen. The rest is up to him. Be there for your kids..they need you.
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February 28th, 2009 at 3:14 am
Well, it does mean the time is split evenly>but, it doesn't imply that each day has to be shared equally.It's always the child's overall welfare that has to be taken care of, violation of which is a serious crime if the matter is taken to the court for legal action.
I am of the opinion that both of you , although separated , should somewhere and discuss the matter of custody ……..(1) which months or weeks are good for him to take care of the child and which are good for you……..decide with an open mind ….but, don't neglect the child's psychological and other factors to be affected adversely
(2) is he capable of taking proper care( I am just asking, because, what a mother can do , a father is unable to the same way…..a father is mostly neglectful, especially, that one is a drunkard/irresponsible)?
(3) if the agreed fifty percent custody creates a problem, just report to appropriate authority when all verbal discussions fail.
God Bless
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