The pain we suffer from Parental Alienation
Parental Alienation is growing ramid all over the country. This is video is the story of Pa and who it effects through pictures. Im a child survivor of this disturbing behavior. Families are not made to be broken. This is dedicated to all who suffer. Dont give up and your children.
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Parental alienation is any behavior by a parent, a child’s mother or father, whether conscious or unconscious, that could create alienation in the relationship between a child and the other parent. Parental alienation can be mild and temporary or extreme and ongoing. Most researchers believe that any alienation of a child against (the child’s) other parent is harmful to the child and to the target parent. Extreme, obsessive, and ongoing parental alienation can cause terrible psychological damage to children extending well into adulthood. Parental Alienation focuses on the alienating parents behaviour as opposed to the alienated parent’s and alienated children’s conditions. This definition is different from Parental Alienation Syndrome as originally coined by Dr. Richard Gardner in 1987: “a disturbance in which children are preoccupied with deprecation and criticism of a parent-denigration that is unjustified and/or exaggerated.” Parental Alienation Syndrome symptoms describe the child’s behaviours and attitude towards the targeted parent after the child has been effectively programmed and severely alienated from the targeted parent. Parental alienation, on the other hand, describes the alienating parent’s or parents’ conduct which induces parental alienation syndrome in children
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Tags: abuse, activism, alienation, child, court, custody, divorce, Loss", of, Parental, pas, reform
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
I just spent an …
I just spent an hour getting trashed online by my 14 year old daughter. We’ve had a good relationship until I served court documents in June 2009. Since then she refused to visit. Here’s what she said:
“I know that you never did anything when I was born. Didn’t work? Stayed in PJ’s all day? watching TV?”
Got that? How would she know either way what I was doing when she was an infant?? Parental Allienation and its accompanying syndrome. The truth will come out. I’m fighting in court.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
Stay strong. Our …
Stay strong. Our children are depending on us. NEVER give up, they need you now more than ever. NEVER give up
NEVER, NEVER
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
THIS IS PROBABLY …
THIS IS PROBABLY THE MOST SAD video on youtube!!!
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
My ex wife is …
My ex wife is putting me through this same hell. I couldn’t finish watching the video. It just chokes me up too much.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
my husband hasn’t …
my husband hasn’t been able to spend time with his daughter since he remarried
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
I am moving to …
I am moving to where my ex fan off with my kids to get them away from me. We are moving within 6 miles of their home to protect my children from their mothers attempts at alienating me.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
SORRY!!!
SORRY!!!
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
Exactly PAS makes …
Exactly PAS makes me sick. My kids are forced to go to domestic violence “GROUP MEETS” just for the simple reason of indoctrination. My ex-wife has 8 kids with 3 fathers and none are allowed to see their kids.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
I feel your pain. …
I feel your pain. knowing your kids don’t like you is awfull. not being able to do anything about it just breakes my heart. I’m sorry for your pain.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
I know how you feel …
I know how you feel. I haven’t seen my son for a whole year now.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
Let us not silence …
Let us not silence this. Expose the corruption. I did and my daughter returned. I cherish every moment we share, and KNOW I am blessed. I have stood up for my children, and our voices have been heard. YOU can make a difference!
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
Things aren’t …
Things aren’t always how they seem…!!
The boys decided they didn’t want anything to do with their dad, long before i gave up hope of him coming through for them…
But he was a manipulative narcissist, he had got so used to lying that he believed his own lies… Deep down he must know he created the situation, which may be why he hasn’t made any effort to see them or put things right..!!
Jaye
p.s. paying 25% of the maintenance you should pay for your kids, is also child abuse/neglect!!
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
My 2 sons’ dad …
My 2 sons’ dad alienated himself from them, then turned his family against me with his lies, so his mum turned us away when i took her grandsons to see her..!!
For years I tried to help him rebuild his relationship with his sons, eventually I gave up, as he had no conscience and continued to hurt them and let them down. In the end he completely alienated himself from them.. of course he blamed me, as it was easier to lie than to face the truth and take responsibility for what he had done!!
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
The one who is …
The one who is doing this to us is the ex-daughter-in-law who is a teacher of 9th grade school children.
A teacher for God’s sake and doing it just to get back at her husband, our son, by hurting us.
And the son whose attraction to another woman superseded his love for his own children making him willing to give them up and raise another man’s kids while another man raises his own.
The grand parents and grandchildren lose while the parents gain.
Was this worth what you 3 have done to us?
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
The torture I …
The torture I suffered when I was in the army was a cakewalk compared to the emotional pain that I have suffered since my wife took my children away over 4 months ago. I haven’t seen them since.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
The thing is this …
The thing is this people, parental alienation is very real and very sad. My son is a invitro baby. It took us 3 years to create him and close to $50,000.00.
He was a twin, the twin died when i was 20 weeks pregnant. My son is the love of my life and I would die for him today!!!
And now he hates me because his dad tells him to hate me.
I dont have the money to fight his dad in court. Anyone who says parental alienation isnt real needs to kiss thier children and thank god its not YOU.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
This is absolutely …
This is absolutely awesome. I was in tears just thinking how much I love and miss being with my sons. They cling to their father and I have become the outsider. I love them so deeply but they can’t see it.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
You know, I keep …
You know, I keep thinking how much better it would have been had my family been taken from me by means of an accident than to know what I know. At least I would never know how unjustifiably hated I am by my own children and their mother.
That is how bad it is and that’s what’s sad: to think that death (their’s or mine) would have been better.
The pain is very, very deep.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
It’s 3 doors down …
It’s 3 doors down Here without you.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
right now I am …
right now I am whatching my child be alienated by his mother in the worst ways, and when I brought it up to the judge he said he does not know what that is.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
Wow. My child went …
Wow. My child went into a relapse & convinced herself to leave me after 1 yr.- One month, no call. I think about her. Its really, really the toughest loss I had that I can remember. This video lets me now know I am not alone. Especially, the military man with his daughter at sea, showing the story of unconditional love. Thanks for the lyrics, the view in, with perfect songs for the story. I hope all of you out there can get through it easier than I can, but if not, don’t give love up. I can’t.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
I cried too.I am at …
I cried too.I am at the point that I dont care about the why.I just want to know when.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
I believe God hears …
I believe God hears your parayers never give up hope! I came home to my mom. We are wonderful now after years of alienation!
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
Yes it was …
Yes it was Nickelback I believe its far away.
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:26 am
THANK YOU! Let’s …
THANK YOU! Let’s work together to stop this. My children are in pain, and I feel it. I want to heal them.
November 18th, 2010 at 3:51 pm
i have been struggling for 4 years with my ex girlfriend and parental alienation my daughter now 7 years old , what we have to do is create a record of our attempts to see our kids and how the other parent refuses and makes it impossible then petition to family court for visitations also show the court your documentation regarding you trying to reach your kid this could be phone records saved texes or certify mail. parental alienation if proven is a good basis for change of custody , and that means the parent thats creating the alienation will lose custody . time to fight back it is our kids life and wellbeing that is at stake …
December 1st, 2010 at 2:54 am
Dont think you can fix it once they grow up either. After 4 years of trying to talk to my son through phone calls and the computer, he finally responded…..he told me “F@#k you! I have no idea why, my daughter basically told me she didnt care if I called her again. I have been trying to “friend” them on facebook and niether one will have anything to do with me they are 20 and 19. My younger daughters miss them. We had great visit the for awhile and I looked forward to seeing them turn it to adults. And now with no explanation I have been cast away by both, niether one wants anything to do with me. My ex-husband and his wife are very happy. And both kids have a new car. I cant give them alot, but I have alot of love to give.
December 27th, 2010 at 5:01 pm
There are men who don´t even deserve to be alive, nor to see the biological children they had. When they are criminous persons without character or remorse they must be kept as far away as possible. Children deserve to grow up in safe as honest environment, away from violence and abuse.
May 29th, 2011 at 2:42 pm
My daughter was raised by me… after her father, a military officer, pretended to be married to someone else, when in fact we were married. It was the end of a long number of years of emotional blackmail and abuse and withdrawal of love.
The entire time I raised her myself, her father secretly demonised me through emails and phone calls and visits to and with her.
In fact he SO brainwashed her without my knowledge, that just two years ago she told me that she had told stories (lies) to some of my friends, who secretly told her to report ME to police, based on her very convincingly laid out story of how much of an ogre of a mother I had been when she was growing up (she is 28 now).
In spite of his vitriolic hateful treatment of me, I moved across the country twice, and flew with her THREE TIMES to visit him, paid for at my expense, making sure she got to spend time with him.
I wasn’t hateful about him, but I also didn’t lie to her about what he did and how lousy it was. I EVEN bought her a Christian book called “A Father’s Legacy” so that she could give it to him on a visit, and he could fill it out for her, so that she would have a good reference of memories of him.
That was in 1984-2001. Then she left home to go to the mission field and become a missionary trained midwife. I have never seen her since, and this is now 2011.
She stopped being a Christian, though I never forced her to read her bible or go to church or ANYTHING, but she left the mission field and began serving drinks in a pub in New Zealand, then backpacked round the world, and finally “settled” and married an east asain Hindu man and has a child. I don’t know the birthdate or name of my grandchild, I wasn’t invited to her pagan wedding, but she has photos of her son on her Father’s Facebook page, this is the father who demonised me to her, alienating me from her.
I live in the UK now for the past 15 years with my second husband who is supportive of me, and tried to stop her from leaving when she phoned us, once, in the middle of the night, from the middle east, when she got into trouble with the laws of that country, and asked us to fly her to the UK.
Well we plunked down £850 (about $1400 US Dollars) for a next day flight and picked her up. Only to have her walk out the next morning after starting a row in our house, before breakfast. I had been SO excited she was “coming back” that I went out that night whilst we were waiting her flight arrival, and shopped all the unique things she liked in soaps, shampoos and cereals, soy milk, etc… only to have her thumb her nose at us after plunking down £850 to get her there, and she hiked off with her rucksack and hitchhiked a lift to Ireland to try and break in to our Irish house.
Now she has her own 2 1/2 year old and a set of asian in-laws from a totally different culture, but at least that culture teaches adult children to respect their parents! but I’m sure she’s told them a PACK of lies about me and there are so many obstacles to overcome – I just don’t see it every turning around.
At least, I am now IMPENETRABLE to her parental alienation and making me the target of her hate, and her blackmail, and that is because I am NOT FOR having her pop in and out of my life as she sees fit. Families are not for when it is convenient, families are FOR LIFE.
Her father is still a hateful vitriolic b-turd. And his Facebook page is filled with photos of my precious grandson “what’s his name.”. I have to say that although it hurts DEEPLY, I have come to the place where I do not and cannot let the emotional blackmail and the withholding of love, affect my life any more, because you only live once and I can say if she was not my daughter but another person on the street and she treated me that way, I wouldn’t give her the time of day. She’s a big girl now, and she can learn to treat me decently like any human being deserves to be treated, or she can keep herself to herself.
I’ll still contact her once in a while and dole out small gifts not costing more than £5, but I don’t think that now, after 9 years, that if she came running back, I would open myself up to any more hurt or trust her, because she’s like her father – and the first time, the first hint of something not going her way, and it’s withdrawal of love, and demonisation of me all over again, and I just don’t want or deserve it. Some people are just rotten and there’s nothing you can do but go on and offer your love to other people God brings into your life, who actually want your love. .
Sorry this is so long – but NINE years of hate is a hell of a long time.